Her beauty is beyond words explanation, her smiles can heal a wounded heart. The first day I saw her in one plaza, I had to wait outside for 4hrs plus just to have a word with her, because I couldn't resist her smile. Fortunately for me, she gave me her number after few minutes of discussion and I promised to keep in touch. I was very happy because the 4hrs plus spent waiting for her was not in vain.. we became best of friends and through her, I got to know some of her friends. One day, we were together discussing and one of her friends said, "men are naturally wicked and heartless, no matter how much you love them, they'll still break your heart and dump you for another girl that you're even more beautiful than." I looked at her and smiled. The other girl next to her also said, "babe you're correct, this girl in my compound dated this man for almost 2yrs and she truly loves this man, the man ended up leaving her for another girl and if you see the girl he left the other one for, you'll know that some men are stupid, I have deleted anything called love in my heart, I don't believe that I will still remain single at this age, despite my beauty, and the love I have given to men, I have never faked love to any man in my life." At this point, I had to come in. Ladies listen, men are not wicked, am not speaking because am a man, Bible says, "he that finds a wife, finds good thing.........." Is he that finds a wife and not he that finds a woman and makes her a wife. For a lady to be married, she has to be a wife while single. Jenny, you said you have written out love because no matter how much you love a man, and emotionally prove it, he will leave you for another girl, especially when he finds out that you are deeply in love with him. There's no place in the Bible where God tells a woman to love a man, so psychologically speaking, emotional love means nothing to a man. The interpretation of love to a man is respect, submission and honor. No matter how emotionally appealing a woman is to a man, if genuinely respect, submission and honor is not there, there's a violation of foundational ordinances, is just a matter of time, the whole thing will collapse. It will be difficult for a woman that learnt respect, submission and honor to have issues in marriage or not to be married. Having these qualities make you a wife even though you're single. There's something respect and submission does to a man, it makes him vulnerable. when you respect and be submissive to a man, he feels genuinely loved. That's the only door that leads to his heart. No wonder he left you despite much emotional love you showed to him, he felt genuinely loved by the other lady that's respectful and submissive. Don't ever in your life think men don't know what they want. When you move around, you will see beautiful ladies, physically wonderful, yet not married and no man is doing anything serious with them. The truth is that no man is looking for a woman to make a wife but men are looking for wives to marry. One was telling me one day that every day she dresses up and wears her make up, five to six men must stop her, yet despite the traffic, nothing positive is coming out of it. And that has made her very stupid and arrogant, because she believes that tomorrow another set of men must stop her, not knowing that the older you become as a lady the more you lose chances of getting married to a Young promising man. I believe you're fully aware that you are more beautiful than the girl he left you for, yet he left. Every young lady is like a magnet, attracting so many things that demand your time, attention and energy. I think is high time you locked yourself in a room and ask yourself, what's really important. This will help you to prioritize and not to give equal time, attention and energy to everything. The beauty of a magnet is not its ability to attract object to itself, but its ability to attract, hold and sustain that which it attracts to itself and that's what respect and submission do. Don't learn marriage base on experience, a lady that had been receiving beating since 25yrs of her marriage, kept quiet because she vowed not to divorce. What do you think she's gonna tell you when you ask her about marriage? Because what ever she's gonna tell you is based on her 25yrs experience, the same thing with relationship. Those that never had a good relationship will always tell you the reason why you shouldn't date, they'll never tell you the other side of it because they never experienced it. What has kept you single till this time despite your beauty and physical appearance? Are you just a woman or a wife to be found? Don't deceive yourself with "is not yet God's time" I don't know the day you become God's time keeper. I Know you do feel happy and also wish the same when you see young couple that are happily married. You can also become one when you make yourself a wife.
It is very unfortunate that we came from different backgrounds where a woman's submission and respect is being interpreted as weakness and desperation. The only thing that's the honor of a woman is being perceived and seen as weakness. Yet Ruth and Esther in their weakness conquered all, to the point that two books in the Bible were named after their names. As a woman, let your strength be in your weakness. There are women today, both in relationship and marriage that are not only happy but are fulfilled because they do fight their men with their weakness. Submission, respect and honor are the greatest weapon a woman can have. Always remember this, love confessions and emotionally appealing of a woman means nothing to a man, also men are not looking for women to make wives but are looking for wives to marry. Because is he that finds a wife........ Are you just a woman or a wife to be found........... think about this..........
...........thanks....... Stanley.......
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